Maybe I’ll start blogging again on a more regular basis…maybe. I’m not making any promises. While I fantasize about being a healthy lifestyle blogger, I’m currently stuck in my Marketing/Sales career. Things could be worse.
My friend Kyle posted a link on facebook today to the following article: Friends of a Certain Age – Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30?
While I haven’t hit 30 yet, I still found myself relating to the rhetoric. Dan and I moved to NYC after having been out of college for 2 years [3 for him]. Luckily for us, a few of our friends from high school/college have made their way out to the Big Apple as well. Having them here is great, and we love getting to spend time with them. However, we really haven’t made many “new” friends. Sure, we have our close “work” friends, but outside of work, activities with them have been limited thus far. It’s not like we can head out and pick up friends at a bar.
We each have alumni groups we could get involved in and volunteering is another awesome way to meet people. But are these options merely was to fill up our social calendar – or do you think it is possible [through these outlets or others] to find new close friends?
I must say, I have meet some pretty interesting people and enjoyed the time spent with them, but nothing much has evolved after the first “dates” [using date loosely here – think social settings with intertwined groups of friends]. Maybe it’s me, and if it is, oh well…their loss. I’m not desperate here, just looking for friendship. As a girl that spent 3 years living in a sorority house, life can seem a little friendless when 75 girls aren’t gushing about their current fraternity crush or persuading you to go out with them on weeknights.
It’s a life adjustment, I get it. I just get bummed sometimes when my closest friends aren’t here to continue enjoying life with me in the same city. [cough, NYC is an awesome city...you all could move here 
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Talk amongst yourselves, I’ll give you a topic…Friends. How have your friendships evolved over the years? Do most of your friends live close to you?
I know what that feels like, Aneessa. I moved to the Twin Cities 7 years ago next month on my own for college. I now have some great friends here but many of my best friends and my family all live between 3 and 4 hours from here, often in opposite directions. I know that isn’t as bad as across the country, but it is still difficult. I find myself having to take long weekends just to see one or two at a time and it quickly drains me to run around Minnesota and Iowa seeing them all. It sure would be easier if everyone were here. And I also agree that it’s hard to meet friends as an adult. It’s also difficult to do it as a single, which I am all too familiar with.